Best gown so was actually a little scrubs type shirt, like the nurses wear. Got to keep it on for all my tests.

I just got back from Houston for a quick overnight trip to do some pre-op stuff. Had dinner with my parents and slept at the apartment they rented for the month. It’s close to the hospital and very nice, should be a comfortable place for recovery.

My appointments were pretty easy. I had an EKG, which I have never had before. It only took about 10 minutes, maybe 5? They stick about ten little round electrodes to your chest. Each electrode is connected to a wire and a machine that tracks your heart activity with a quick printout.  Also had a standard chest x-ray and blood work. They just need to make sure that my lungs and heart are in good working order and ready for surgery.

I met with my surgical team again and forgot just how much I like them. They went over everything and answered all our questions. I truly feel like I am in great hands and getting the best care, so that is a comforting feeling. It did suck signing the paperwork…they have to cover their butts so they prepare you for every possible what-if.

As the big surgery day approaches, I am feeling anxious.  Worried about being away from the kids, my recovery and of course the final pathology reports. But instead of dreading the surgery I am trying to put a positive light on things by thinking that I am doing everything I need to do to take care of myself so I can lead a long and happy life! That after the surgery I will be cancer-free and ready to move past this.

Hopefully, I won’t need chemo or radiation. But if I do, I will try to approach those treatments in the same way. As something I need to do to get healthy.

As far as the surgery goes..I am trying to think of it kind of like pregnancy/childbirth.  Yes, the expanders may be uncomfortable (some say its like a “steel bra” or having rocks in your chest), but being pregnant was uncomfortable too. For 9 months, and I did it three times. I also had three c-sections, which were not fun, but bearable. So..I can do this!

This weekend we will be busy with camp open houses, end-of-school stuff and two dance recitals. I am trying to enjoy these last few days of normalcy.

Monday we head to Houston for surgery, which is scheduled for early Tuesday morning.

After all the waiting, we are almost there.

I am ready.




Best Mastectomy (and Bday) Gifts Ever

I am so lucky to have an amazing group of girlfriends. Yesterday was my birthday, and they treated me to a yummy celebratory lunch at one of my favorite restaurants. I adore this group of women and it is always so great to hang with them. With busy lives and schedules, we don’t get to do it as often as we should.

During my birthday lunch, I got up to use the restroom and when I got back to the table, there was this amazing tower of gifts at my seat! There were at least 20 gifts to open. Who doesn’t love opening presents?

One of my friends, who was diagnosed with breast cancer 2 years ago planned the whole thing. (She is now NED, which means No Evidence of Disease..woohoo!) This woman has been a huge support and is a special kind of soul sister to me now. She organized the BEST collection of gifts ever.

The amount of time that went in to carefully choosing, organizing and wrapping these items is just beyond thoughtful. Seriously. Thank you, Amy. Did I mention that she has three kids, is a successful attorney and still dealing with some health issues?  This chick is a superwoman.

I wanted to share the gifts because there are so many items here that are helpful for those facing a double mastectomy. Everything was labeled into cute categories.

Luxurious backrest pillow

Custom-made pillows to put under my arms for comfort after surgery.

Two pairs of the softest, most comfortable and luxurious pajamas from Soma. These are made of a special material to keep you cool.

Thank-you notes. Pre-stamped with return address written in! Seriously brilliant.

Damn it Dolls (for pity par-tays)

 Adult Coloring Book (always wanted to try these…love that the pencils are erasable)

Eye shade + earplugs for better sleeping in hospitals and during the day.

Blackbird’s BackBeads

I adore these! They can be used for meditation and worn as a special necklace to keep your intentions close to your heart and carry a sense of peace throughout the day. Plus, they are beautiful.

Lanyard + safety pins to hold my drains in the shower

Karma calendar (kind of like an advent calendar but can be used any month)

Awesome hoodie! Everything you wear after surgery has to be button down or zipper. I love that this hoodie is sleeveless, perfect for summer.


Fancy, Fancy

My blog looks fancy now, doesn’t it?

Blogging is part of what I do for a living. I help clients with blogs for their businesses…and it was driving me crazy that my own little blog wasn’t pretty enough! Also, I did not initially create it on WordPress, which was really annoying me.

Anyway, I switched things up, and am now in my happy place, which is on WordPress. So much better! Hopefully, people who have been having issues leaving comments, following, etc. will enjoy the new changes as well.

Who is reading this, I wonder? Go ahead, leave a comment if you feel like it. And if you want to get updates when there is a new post, just hit the “follow” button to get an email notification.

I spoke to my friend who recently finished going through treatment the other day and it is always so nice to speak to her. She just gets it. Everything about it. I was having a day where I was feeling a little blue and she definitely helped.

Also connected with another mom in my neighborhood who had breast cancer a couple years ago. She was very positive and said that her surgery was smooth, with no issues. She went to Sloan Kettering  in NYC and said going to a big cancer center makes all the difference. Her blog had information about this site, which arranges travel for people traveling for cancer care.  This could definitely be helpful for all of the flying back and forth I will need to do!

My best days are the normal ones. The ones where I do my hair, put on a real outfit and go meet with clients, see a friend for lunch. Staying home in sweats and doing c-word research while stress eating? Not so much. Will try to have less of those days before I leave for surgery.

The next couple of weeks are going to be crazy. Tons of end of school activities, two dance recitals with extra rehearsals, a band concert, my son’s birthday, a little birthday celebration for me (woohoo!) and trying to get everything prepped for camp and summer.

But busy is good. A week from Tuesday I head to Houston for one night of some pre-op stuff.  Then on June 5 Mark and I will head back for the surgery.

Thank you to all of our family, friends and neighbors that are helping out with kids and logistics.  It takes a village, and I am so lucky that I have a great one!



Ants In Pants

I am not a patient person. Waiting is really hard for me, always has been. I am ready to get this show on the road!

I wish I had a fast forward button that I could press until I am on the other side of the surgery.  Too much time on my hands is causing my mind to go to dark places.

Stay positive, they say. There is power in positive thinking. Okay. Trying. Positivity.

Here is what is going to happen on June 5:

Everything will be on schedule, according to plan. I fly to Houston with no delays or turbulence. During pre-op I feel calm and ready to get this stuff out of me. No anxiety or fear. The operation goes smoothly with absolutely no surprises or complications.

Teeny tiny tumor, no lymph node involvement. Wow, says the surgeon. This is one of the smallest tumors and most uncomplicated cases I have ever seen! Everyone in the OR agrees.

After surgery, I rest comfortably with no issues from anesthesia or pain. It doesn’t take long for me to be up and on my feet. I make friends with the nurses and am joking and laughing with everyone.

Recovery is a breeze. Much easier than I thought. The drains are no biggie, my scars don’t even look that bad! I take some pain pills for a few days, but don’t even need them after the first week.

I am a perfect patient and don’t annoy my parents at all. We have fun binge watching House of Cards on Netflix. It’s kind of like a little vacation.

The expanders? They are not heavy, they feel fine. I have no problems sleeping comfortably.

Infection? Nope.

Trouble reaching stuff, getting dressed and bathing myself? No issues. I got this.

Back at home, kids are in their routine and happy.  All is under control. They are not worried about me and are enjoying camp and friends. All of the instructions I put together for their routine are perfect, I didn’t forget a thing.

Final pathology comes back with no surprises. We got this so early! It’s tiny.  Clean margins, got it all. No chemo needed. No radiation needed.

I fly home ahead of schedule with an easy transition to a local plastic surgeon to finish everything up.

Pretty soon life is back to normal and this becomes just a blip, a memory. People go back to treating me normally. Work, kids and life get normal again.  I start a new exercise plan.  I meditate. I feel calm, happy and lucky.

Positive, positive, positive.

Hopefully, in a few weeks I can write a post similar to this one.

Fingers crossed!

Strange Days

This is a strange time. The days are long and surgery seems so far away from now. I am happy to have this “normal” time with my family and friends, but it’s not really normal. I will be doing fine and then… suddenly, waves of anxiety rush through me. Mini panic attacks. At the weirdest times. Work is definitely a good distraction and just keeping busy in general helps. When I have too much time on my hands things get hard.

I am really trying to stay off the internet, but it is difficult. Things will pop up in my newsfeed and literally ruin my day.

For example, yesterday I was just innocently going through my Facebook feed when this news story popped up. It’s about a woman who thought she had stage 1 breast cancer, and was trying to make the best of the situation by having a positive attitude about it. She had a little “Ta-Ta to the Tatas” party to say goodbye to her breasts. When they did her surgery, the doctors found that her cancer was not Stage 1, but Stage 4 and had spread throughout her body and into her bones.

“But…did she have an MRI?” I want to ask.  “Was her bloodwork normal?  Did she go to an amazing facility like MD Anderson to have her scans?” I desperately want to know these answers to try to soothe my fears of that happening to me.

Then, there is this woman, whose blog I recently devoured. When her surgery was over the initial tests said it was not in her lymph nodes.  Her family cheered and celebrated…no chemo!! Then, a week later when the final pathology came back, they found it was in her lymph nodes after all. Not only did they have to go back in for a second surgery to get more nodes, but she surely did need chemo.

I know its probably not healthy to read these stories. I have to focus on my own situation and everyone’s story is different. I am trying.

By the way, people are awesome. So many friends doing little things to help me out, even just checking in with a quick text or really helps. Truly. When I am having a bad moment or occasionally feeling alone, that feeling of support makes such a difference. People have been so great and it means so much to me.

Thank you. XOXO

10 Things I Have Learned: Issue #2

1. When you get diagnosed with cancer, a lot of people are going to treat you differently. When you see them, they avoid you, can’t make eye contact…or they might even cry. There is a tragic overtone to the conversation. Like someone has died. Or is going to die. Ugh. I mean, I get it. People are freaked out, scared it might happen to them, or don’t know what to say. But it is super weird. Thankfully, there are also people who treat you normally.

2. {This might be TMI for some} When you get a mastectomy, you leave the hospital with 2-4 drains coming out of your body. Eww, right? I am not looking forward to this part. From what I have read, the drains will stay in for weeks and are not fun.

3. I have had a couple friends who have been sick with cancer or other serious illnesses, and they agree that you really do look at everything differently when diagnosed. Silver lining, I guess. I have already begun to feel a deep appreciation for the little things that we sometimes take for granted in life.

4. You really have to be your own advocate when you are a cancer patient. You have to speak up for yourself, educate yourself and double check everything to make sure there are no errors in your reports and paperwork. No one else is going to do this for you. I met two women in the waiting room at MDA who had recently been diagnosed. Neither woman knew what kind of cancer they had, or had even seen their pathology reports. This blew my mind.

5. In 1998, the Women’s Health & Cancer Act was signed by President Bill Clinton. The act requires that health insurance companies and plans pay for breast reconstructive surgery after a mastectomy. So thankful for this.

6. If you are getting reconstructive surgery, you have tons of options and choices to make. Nipple sparing, skin sparing, implants, flaps, expanders, skin graphs…the list goes on. It’s a bit overwhelming and took me awhile to fully understand which choice would be best for me.

7. And speaking of nipples (sorry), there is this guy named Vinnie who does amazing 3-D nipple tattoos for women who have been through breast cancer. He is very famous…MD Anderson told me about him and I had already read about him. He’s an artist and changes women’s lives.

8. People say that the first couple of weeks after diagnosis are the hardest. I think I agree. I have turned a little corner and having a plan in place does make me feel better.

9. I get why people say blogging is cathartic. It helps sort out what you are feeling. Also, from a practical standpoint, its a great way to update people who care about you.

10. I’ve changed my stance on this post a bit. While research is definitely important, scouring the internet and reading different people’s stories over and over has not been good for me lately. You read about every worst case scenario, and it just heightens anxiety. I am trying to show some restraint here. It’s not easy, but I am trying.

Happy May

It looks like surgery will happen in early June, so May should be a pretty normal month! Although anxious to have the surgery, I am thankful to have a month to plan and prepare.

We decided to do my daughter’s birthday in May instead of June, so I quickly threw together a fun party for her which I think she will love. We are doing a limo to a fun restaurant with a handful of friends…she is super excited.

Heading to Disney this weekend with dear friends and staying at the Animal Kingdom Lodge, where I have always wanted to stay. Looking forward to a fun family weekend.

I am so thankful that I won’t miss the girl’s recitals…both happening on the same weekend and my older daughter has the featured solo in her musical theatre number. I would have been so bummed to miss that!

Also I have a trunk to pack for my son’s first summer at sleepaway camp.  Determined to get that done this month.

Soo…looking forward to a nice normal May without a lot of “c-word” stuff.  If the blog is quiet this month, it means I am having fun and not stressing out about things.

Just want to say a huge thank you to everyone for being so supportive, checking in, listening, driving my kids, going to doctors appointments with me, etc.  I am so lucky to have such an amazing network of family and friends.

Here’s to hoping May doesn’t go by too fast…Big love to all. XO